Tolerate

tol·er·ate (tŏl′ə-rāt′)
tr.v. tol·er·at·ed, tol·er·at·ing, tol·er·ates
1. To allow without prohibiting or opposing; permit.
2. To recognize and respect (the rights, beliefs, or practices of others).
3. To put up with; endure
I like #2. #’s 1 and 3 kind of piss me off. Who do people think they are to presume that they are in any place to “allow” someone to be themselves? Aj or Z, do I “allow” you to be yourselves, or do I respect the fact that y’all are great folks that happen to do things differently than I do? I don’t “allow” *what a condescending thought* my wife to have a different view point. I enjoy that she, and y’all are different than I am. Neither do I “endure” it. People’s lives and ways of doing things aren’t mine to be “endured”. They are mine to be blessed to have been allowed into. Difference isn’t to be “tolerated”. It’s to be examined for what can be learned from it so that we can all grow. If all you do is “tolerate”, and not respect and learn from, it’s your loss…y’all have a nice day and quit being so condescending unless you just want to be tolerated, too.
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2 comments

  1. To say that we tolerate someone is almost like saying that we can barely stand them. It doesn’t work. If that’s all a person has to say about another human being, or offer, they should just keep themselves from making the noise, methinks.

    1. thus this post. yeah, there’s just good word in english for “appreciate someone without any judgement on what they do that happens to be different than the way you do things”. “love them for themselves” is a sentiment that sort of works. if you backtrack through these sometime, you’ll find that i love, in a “no one can take my wife’s place but, wouldn’t trade those two for the world” sense of the word. i was friends with both Z and Aj for years before the topic of being “not Christian or straight” ever came up. i do not tolerate those two. love them to pieces. i tolerate a screaming child at the store i work in. i tolerate asshole customers for the sake of making a living. fair enough/

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